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A big Step to achieve Mindfulness: Let go of attachments.

The one thing all people have in common is that we all want to feel happy; and at the same time, we want to avoid hurting. And this way, almost deterministically, we constantly put ourselves in situations that bring us pain.

Why is this happening ?

This is happening because we don’t live each day as an entirely new day, full of new experiences and emotions. We don’t live, in other words, in the moment consciously (with mindfulness). Instead, we attach our happiness to things, people and circumstances and we cling to them as if our lives depend on them. We fear of losing them every time something seems to be going wrong. And in case something does change, in our professional or personal life, we break down into pieces.

The irony in this and the thing that you need to observe consistently in order to acknowledge it, is that we adhere to feelings as if they define us and strangely enough, not only positive feelings. If you have let yourself sink into regret or disappointment for years, it may feel safe and even comforting to suffer. Especially, if these feelings were formed in childhood.

In our attempt to keep the things we know and feel comfortable with, we restrict our chances to feel joy in the present. Therefore, letting go is so essential – actually, letting go means letting happiness in.

I am fully aware of the fact that unless you have participated in one of Serendipity Institute’s retreats, all these may seem totally understandable and vital but hard to put them in action. This is the reason why it is very important, apart from reading these lines or listening to speeches, to participate in experiential meditation retreats and receive the kind of help many people have already gotten till today. This is your only true chance “to be reborn”.

You need to learn techniques which you will practice daily in order to reach your goal. Letting go of attachment is not an easy task and most certainly not a one-time decision. In order to experience happiness, you have to make a decision and renew this decision every single day. Big changes in life are not easy to achieve…

Choose to participate in the Active Mindfulness Retreat,  giving yourself the opportunity to live an active experience which will help you perceive experientially the change of attitude you need or it will help you renew and strengthen the decision you have already made!

Below you can read about our fundamental attachments and the change in attitude needed in order to confront them. You will have the chance to explore this new attitude experientially and enhance it by participating in any of our retreats included in our summer program.

Experiencing Without Attachment 

  • Accept the moment for what it is.
    Don’t try to make the moment last forever if it is pleasant for you or to avoid a difficult situation. Just seep into the moment and enjoy your presence in life.  Tomorrow may not look the same as today, no matter how much you try to control and manipulate, in order not to lose or gain something instead of simply experiencing it.
  • Define yourself not by possessions, roles, and relationships, but by your will to constantly evolve and grow from one moment to another.
  • Letting Go of Attachment to People: Friend yourself.
    Believe you’re worthy whether someone else tells you or not. Take time to foster your own interests. Maintain only healthy relationships and remember: you are not someone’s other half. You’re whole. Stay open to new connections. Accept the possibility that your future involves a lot of love! Set as a goal to meet people who follow the path of personal growth. In Serendipity Institute we encourage the people coming here to keep in touch with each other. The only way to let go and feel less pain is to believe you’re strong enough to carry on if and when things change.
  • Letting Go of Attachment to the Past: Know you can’t change the past. 
    Even if you punish yourself. Even if you refuse to accept it. It’s done. Focus on what you love and you’ll create happiness instead of worrying about it. Instead of thinking of what you did or didn’t do, focus on lessons learned and be someone worthwhile now! We can’t change the past, but we can grow to accept it and move on.
  • Letting Go of Attachment to Outcomes: Practice letting things be. 
    That doesn’t mean you can’t actively work to create a different tomorrow. It just means you make peace with the moment as it is and then operate from a place of acceptance. Life entails uncertainty, no matter how strong your intention. Obsessing about tomorrow wastes your life because there will always be a tomorrow on the horizon. No moment will ever be worthier of your joy than now because that’s all there ever is. You don’t need to have x-amount of money in the bank to live a meaningful life right now. Figure out what matters to you, and fill pockets of time indulging it. It is only natural to try to visualize how your life will be in the future but remind yourself to stay open to possibilities. Practice letting things be.

Experience, enjoy the moment, appreciate and let go to welcome another experience.

 

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